Essay, Research Paper
impact of modern society on children identity
As human beings we are always busy by working,
studying, solving family problems, etc. That s why we can t
spend enough time with our children. Of course, we strive to
satisfy all their needs, but we do missing their prime necessity,
which is happy childhood.
When I hear the creak of swing, it seems to me that the sun
is bright, even if the weather is hazy. This is my childhood
memory. When I was a child the sunlight came into my room
every morning. I would wake up and hear the voices of
children playing in the playground below my window. I still
think that the sun was always a part of my childhood. It gave
me a light mood. I sometimes do not remember what I did
yesterday, but I remember everything about my childhood
room. I remember not only things, but also smells, feelings,
and senses.
I think about kids, who are left with baby-sitters, and feel
sorry for them. A baby-sitter takes care of the child, but she
hardly ever plays with him. I think a child learns a lot about
life from playing. Boredom is dangerous not only for adults, but
for children also. My parents usually played with me, despite
the jobs they each had. They taught me many things. I rode a
bicycle, skied, played tennis, and went on hikes. For all these
activities, I was with my parents.
From time to time, I asked my father, to his surprise, if he
had remembered the old apartment we had. Why is he
surprised? Because when we moved I was just 5 years old. I
have this memory from my happy childhood. Every time I
return to my old room in my thoughts, I am happy. I
understand what a wonderful childhood my parents gave me!
Nowadays, we faced a lot of changes in our lives, which are
making childhood obsolete. As a result of changing nature of
childhood we get increasing of juvenile crime, drags addiction
and prostitution.
In fact, we can see how our society suffers from victims of
itself. I recollect the terrible crime, which happened in recent
times. A young boy in Springfield, Oregon committed this
crime. Kip Kinkel, this is a name of a criminal, was accused in
killing his parents and two of his schoolmates without any
special reason. Unfortunately, it is not the only case we have to
face to, it is just a small tiny drop among the ocean of criminal
acts committed by children. Sometimes we simply don t know
about them, sometimes we just ignore them, up to the moment
when ourselves we have to deal with it. So, who are these
children: killers or victims?
I often ask myself: why do people commit the crime? What
is the main explanation that underlines delinquent behavior? I
understand that nobody is able to give me a clear and precise
answer. I think there is a combination of biological,
psychological, and economical problem that lead to it. But, who
could tell me, why do children commit the crime? I think
because their parents in some ways abandoned them.
Such terrible stories bring us a message that juvenile
delinquency isn t one-day process or the disease we can easy
cure. This boy is a product of modern society. We produce
such monsters by neglecting children s moral needs. We leave
them all alone, face to face to the computer screen.
Development of modern technology brings dangerous toy to
our children. It teaches them how to kill and they simply can
transfer the game to the reality.
Based on the above, we can see that time deficit or
parenting deficit affects the nation. We have to be concerned
that illegal, uneducated babysitters are looking after the
children whose parents are working fifty hours a week.
I think that people don t set a high enough value on the
raising of children as a measure of human accomplishment.
They don t know where is the best balance between work and
family. Thus, we can see the result, that such changing in
nowadays childhood have a deep impact on the unformed
identity.
When today s children will become young adults it could be
hard for them to make sense of their lives. Frequently, in this
stage of life young adults find themselves in different kinds of
hard situation. Whatever they are trying to do with good
intention turns out to be bad. In desperation, they can make
variety of mistakes. Instead of coming to their parents for the
advise they can start to do drugs, or become members of some
sects or even worse commit a crime. They cannot come to their
parents simply because parents were missing part of the
childhood.
As I have read, age about 15-18 is the age of the final
establishment of a dominant positive ego identity. It is then that
a future within reach becomes part of the conscious life plan. It
is then that the question arises whether or not the future was
anticipated in earlier expectations. Thus, as we can see by
abandoning children in early age parents ruined future
adolescence too. Therefore they ruin future personality.
In sum, I assume that we should spend more time with our
children, to talk with them. We must sacrifice ourselves for the
benefit of the children. It is our duty to bear. Otherwise, we
would rise following generations affected from the beginning