your english self 10 класс (стр. 3 из 3)

Where do young people like to spend their time together?

с) Complete the second sentence so that it means the same as the first. Use the words suggested.

Example: — “Could you give me Helen’s telephone number?” — said Peter.

asked

— Peter asked if I could give him Helen’s telephone number.

1. “Would you invite your friends for the party?” — the mother asked her son. questioned The mother … to the party.

2. “Where did you see Ann?” Nancy asked Alice. wondered Nancy … Ann.

3. “Would you see who is at the door, please?”requested My principal … the door.

4. “Would you join our party?” Nelly asked her friend. was interested Nelly … .

5.

“Do you know how many people are coming tonight?” Val asked his cousin. couldn’t remember Val … coming.

6. “Did you enjoy yourself at the concert?” the music teacher asked me. questioned

The music teacher … at the concert.

7. “Have you been working hard at your English?” — my teacher asked me. enquired

My teacher … at my English.

8. “Are you still on friendly terms with Bob?” Helen asked me.wondered Helen … with Bob.

At home: Read the interview and fill in the journalist’s report. Say if you feel the same or different about your friends and your family.

A: What does a family mean for you?

B: It means people who are ready to help each other in different si tuations. You feel protected and safe in the family.

A: I see. Do your parents understand?

B: You may say so. At least they always listen to what I’m trying to say.

A: Do they share your views or interests?

B: Not really. We sometimes even say angry and rude words to each other. But in the long run their arguments make me think that they are right. They forgive me for being rude and unfair towards them.

A: And what is your relationship with your elder brother like?

B: Well, we are very good friends. He supports me in all situations, no matter if I’m sometimes wrong. Dan tries to see life through my eyes and often gives me a piece of advice.

A: Do you have many friends?

B: I do.

A: And your friends, are they the most important people in your life?

B: I love both my family and my friends. But I think family relations are much stronger than those among friends.

I asked Ann what family meant for her and she answered that she felt safe and protected there. Then I wondered … and learned that her parents were good listeners. Next I asked Ann … and Ann told me that though sometimes she disagreed with her parents but finally their arguments made her think that they were right. Then I wanted to know … and the girl

told me that they were very good friends as her brother supports her in everything and tries to see the world through her eyes. Also I wondered … . Ann said that she had a lot of friends. Then I enquired … and the girl said she loved both — her family and her friends.

IV Your Language Portfolio: Reading

a) Read what psychologists from different countries say about relationships in the families and make a list of family values they suggest.

What Makes a Family?

Americans consider the family to be an important institution, but often career, education and money are placed ahead of the family possibly contributing to the social problems that America faces today.

In almost all families (except for very wealthy or religious ones) both mother and father work full time,

BrE mum AmE mom

40 hours per week. Since parents Sam Brighton, the USA usually don’t arrive home from work until after 5 p.m., children are left unattended for several hours. Many psychologists believe this time left alone is the cause of many problems, especially for teenagers. They feel lonely and neglected and want their parents to hear them out. They need to feel cared for — the feeling that they are important for their mom and dad, so that the parents are interested in them, worried about them. Children like to talk about what’s happening, who’s doing what. “It’s lovely to have the family round you and to know they regard you as important so that you are careful not to harm them, treat them rudely” — many of them claim. It speaks for the respect of every member of the family and it’s an important family value.

I’d like to speak about the relationships in extended families. I believe more and more families turn to one kind of one-for-all-andall-for-one style existence in the new millennium. According to psychological research, households of three or even four generations become typical. Naturally, in such families conflicts are unavoidable.

They happen because people have

Susan Bricks, Australia different ideas, their values are different. Sometimes they don’t listen to each other well. They think about what they want to say and don’t really hear what another member of the family is saying. In such situations understanding is all they need. Everybody in the family should understand that. Each of them has the right to be different and must respect the right of other people to have ideas that differ from your ideas. Family members who respect each other’s ideas can resolve conflicts in a peaceful way. Decidedly, it leads to better relationships among all members of the family. And then the family becomes a shelter from the storm … a friendly port when the waves of life become too wild.

Many Canadian psychologists put drive and value on trust. A strong belief in goodness and charity makes a good family. It becomes a place where love and faith dwell, a place where all members can enjoy the dignity of their own personality. It goes further than that. In such families all their m embers are confident and sup-

Paul Rivers, Canada portive. When something unpleasant occurs to one of them, the

family takes his / her word against anybody else’s. It means that they can rely on each other and be sure to be protected from the bad things that can happen to all of us. I think trust and comfort in the family is the basis of good relationships.

One of the worst things about family relations that young people single out is lack of privacy. They often complain that even if they disappear into their room for some peace, it’s guaranteed that someone will come after them, wishing to know what they are up to. With parents, brothers or sisters in one house they don’t have a chance to be alone, unseen or unheard. Some

of them even say that their family Sarah Simon, members have no sympathy for Great Britain their feelings.

I believe that when families have such problems the first thing to do is to talk. Children must tell parents what makes them unhappy. Calm communication, without the words that hurt people, will definitely provide a solution. Teenagers are vulnerable and they need someone to talk to.

It’s an open secret that a family is happy when it has things together … like dreams and hopes and possessions and memories and smiles. The relations of family members are based on mutual r espect and understanding. But I’d like to stress one more family value, which many families in Ukraine cultivate — sharing responsibilities at home. Every family member should have a family duty like Olga Kovalenko, Ukraine taking a dog for a walk, doing the shopping or washing up, etc. If everyone in the family does his / her fair share, it will unite them and make a close-knit family.

In such cases children and parents and other relatives that live in the house will help each other with any activity willingly.

T ogetherness becomes number one for all of them. Family Values:

1. Caring 2. …….. 3. ……..

b) Analyse which country’s psychologists give the following solutions as to family lifestyles. Say which of them are typical of your country.

- Sharing responsibilities is one of the most important family values.

- Children often feel lonely and neglected. They need sympathy and caring.

- If three or four generations prefer to live together, they should learn how to avoid conflicts.

- Family conflicts should be resolved in a peaceful way.

- Children should have privacy.

- It’s important to enjoy the dignity of your personality. - Family must protect its members.

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Trust is number one in family relationships.

c) In groups rank the family values, which are described by psychologists, in order of importance. Give your reasons.

d) Some psychologists suggest solutions as to how to improve relation-ships in your family. In groups, fill in the chart and give your comments.

Psychologists’ solutions	Your commentaries
1) Talk to your family members and find out what makes them unhappy.	I think it’s a good solution. If you know the reason for somebody’s unhappiness it is easy

2) … to help him / her out.

e) Imagine that you are talking to a psychologist about the relationships in your family. Role-play the dialogue following the scheme below.

Family and Friends

7. Give more facts about your family’s lifestyle: - I lack… - Besides… - Nobody tries…

9. Thank the psychologist for being sympathetic and ask for advice: - I appreciate … - Thank you for … - Can you …

11. Express your gratitude:

- I’m so thankful … - You are so kind … - You’ve helped me …

8. Comfort the teenager: - Don’t say die … - I’m sure your family … - As for your parents …

10. Give the teenager a piece of advice: - At first … - Then …

- I advise you …

12. Express your hope for better family relations:

- I hope … - I think … - Surely …

V Your Language Portfolio: Listening

a) Listen to the story about one family and say why Philip didn’t tell his news.

b) Now listen again and match the characters to their thoughts.

VI Your Language Portfolio: Writing

Formal Letters

-Formal letters are normally sent to people in an official position or people you don’t know well.

-They are written in a formal style with a polite impersonal tone.

-They can come as letters of complaint, requests, application, etc.

Family and Friends

How to write a letter of complaint

Content Tips

Language Tips

- Start with a formal greeting (e.g. Dear Sir / Madam when you don’t know the person’s name or Dear Mr. Black — when you know the person’s name); - In the opening remark state your complaint, including details of what has happened; - In the main body present each of the specific points you are complaining about. Start a new paragraph for each point and justify these points by giving examples; - In the closing remarks explain what you expect to happen. - Write a formal ending (yours faithfully — when you don’t know the person’s name; yours sincerely — when you know the

— I’m writing to complain about ... — I’m writing in connection with … — I’m writing to express my unhappiness with … — I hope you will … — I hope that this conflict will be resolved. — I feel (believe) that …

person’s name + your full name).

Read the sample letter of complaint and say if the author managed to use the tips.

Sample letter of complaint:

Dear Sir / Madam,

I’m writing to complain about the conflict with my roommate in the hostel. I have no privacy in the room, because I share it with a young girl from Italy, who is very talkative.

In the morning when we get up she talks about her clothes and her dates with boys. She keeps talking about it in-between the classes and even in the evening her talks about fashions and boys are unavoidable.

All this prevents me from studying well. Besides, she invites guests every evening and in addition to it, I can’t concentrate on my project which I am about to complete soon.

However, I tried to resolve the conflict and talk to the girl. But she was very impolite and I was offended with her reaction. She refused to change her behaviour.

As you can imagine, I’m extremely upset and don’t know what to do. I hope that you will find time to help us to resolve the conflict.

Yours sincerely,

Susan Blake

VII Culture Comparison

1) What family relations of the English speaking countries mentioned in the text “What Makes a Family” are typical of Ukraine?

2) What other examples of family relations can be attributable to Ukrainian families?

At home: In your workbook, write a letter of complaint to a psychologist about some of your family problems.

1.2. Exploring Your Family: History

Academic English	Conversational English
- ancestors - archive / references - to live through a particular era - to make something come alive	- to arouse in sb the desire to do sth - to put someone in context - to start out - to have an inclination for